Happy New Year! Ladies, I am SO excited about 2018. I just have a GUT feeling that this year is going to be incredible. In this episode, I’m sharing my personal “Style Your Mind for Success” strategy to help you turn your resolutions into reality. This is what I am doing to make my year as powerful as possible, and I know these tools will help you, too. If you are looking to uplevel your thinking and supercharge your brand new year, then get a pen and paper and get ready. If you’re looking for even more guidance on making changes in your life, check out my coaching workbook “Style Your Mind” here: http://styleyourmind.com/

Today’s episode is sponsored in part by Katie Stoeckeler. Katie works as a holistic health coach to help women, men and children integrate healthy eating habits, self-care routines and wellness rituals into their ever day lives. She hosts weekly cleanse meetings via video chat that are individualized and provide ample support for anyone looking to make healthier life style changes. Her 4 week program is typically $400, but she is offering 50% off for Style Your Mind listeners! If you’re ready for change email Katie@somethingkatie.com and put Style Your Mind Cleanse in the subject line. Also feel free to follow her on Instagram @SomethingKatie for nutrition tips, quick and easy recipes as well as inspirational posts!

Today’s episode is also sponsored in part by the book Innerbloom. Innerbloom is the brand new personal development/memoir hybrid self-published by author and fellow Slay Baby Sarah Ordo (you may remember her from Episode 24 of this show!). If you’re looking to feel empowered and inspired to create your best life possible, then Innerbloom is the book for you. In this book you can expect to find the questions that you will need to ask yourself to find your own true inner happiness. You can click here to grab your copy RIGHT HERE and learn more about Sarah at SarahOrdo.com

Are you inviting stress and overwhelm into your life? Are you pouring it a cup of coffee and allowing it to stay awhile? Not after this episode. I'm serving up my secret strategies for dealing with the stresses of every day life and work, and providing some mega perspective to help you decide what you're available for in your world.

Thank you to our sponsor, Metal Marvels!

Metal Marvels is a brand for badass & bold women who don't fit societies standards. Katie, the creator, was always searching for mantra jewelry with more powerful & in your face messages. Being a woman who curses like a sailor daily, the messages just weren't out there. So she created the amazing Expletives collection that gives women jewelry that helps them feel empowered to be themselves, to be bold, and use the word fuck as frequently as they want. Societal standards for women and success, are bullshit and she runs her company that way too showing that someone who curses like a sailor, has tattoos and purple hair, can be extremely successful in this world. Make sure you follow Metal Marvels Instagram for daily inspiration, a heavy use of profanity, and badass products. And you can save 20% off for being a Style your mind listener. Use code: STYLEYOURMIND at metalmarvels.com

What if "someday" never comes? One of the most motivating and empowering truths is that we are all going to die. And nobody knows when. So why are you saving all of the beautiful, life-changing things you want to do for some imaginary bucket list you'll probably never actually check things off of? Why aren't you doing all those beautiful, life-changing things NOW? In this mini episode, I'm serving up some real talk to help you turn your bucket list into your to-do list, and start creating the wildly gorgeous life you deserve to live.

If you liked the poem I closed this episode with, you can find it (and more) in my book STRIPPED here: http://amzn.to/2CYrRcw

Can we talk about what a f*cking circus it is when you begin something new?! My apparel launch has been a MASSIVE success. I am thrilled, fired up, excited, humbled, and grateful, but OMG - I am WORKED! It's been an incredible lesson in the inevitable hiccups that come along with blazing a new trail for yourself. And I truly think so many women never start the things they dream of starting because they dread the hiccups. They dread the craziness that always tags along when we leave our comfort zones and try that new thing. In this episode, I'm talking about my own experience with this, and giving you 5 solid strategies on how to navigate the challenges that come along with new projects and keep your head above water.

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Laaaaaadies! I'm answering all your burning BIZ questions in this very special episode! The New Year is almost here and I want to get you hooked up with the tips, strategies, and mind-set shifts you need to feel confident in your hustle. Where do you begin when you have a million ideas for your business? How do you handle copycats? How do you stand out in a crowded marketplace? How do you think outside the box? What do you do when you're not getting ANY clients? I'm answering ALL these questions and more. Get a notebook for this one (you're gonna wanna take notes) and let's get you ready to SLAY 2018.

Thank you to our sponsors!

This episode is brought to you in part by artist Wendy Buiter. Wendy creates beauty and fashion inspired art, utilizing vivid colors, to depict powerful women who exude confidence. Check out her beautiful prints, cards, and more at WendyBuiter.com. Use code STYLEYOURMIND to get her card collection for free when you spend 200 Euro or more!

This episode is also brought to you in part by Emmy-award winning designer, brand strategy teacher and coach Haylee Powers of Bad Bitch Branding. If you are feeling overwhelmed and need to get your shit together when it comes to branding yourself or your business, check out my girl Haylee and learn more about her work at BadBitchBranding.com and get involved with her coaching program at https://www.bbbranding.com/coaching-1/.

There's been a lot going on and I'm filling you in on everything in this episode! Life updates from Cara's World and some lessons learned along the way. Grab a cup of coffee (or a glass of wine) and get ready for some girl talk.

Have you ever shared a win or a celebration that you were proud of, only to have someone try to knock you down? A funny thing happens when we reveal our confidence; it triggers those who are lacking it. In this episode, I'm sharing a personal story around this, as well as some inspiration to start owning who you are, shining your light, and stop shrinking yourself for someone else's comfort. This is a big one for my boss ladies who struggle with putting themselves out there!

Growing up, I always assumed if a woman was powerful, she was a bitch. I never understood that you could be assertive, yet kind. I never understood that you could be empowered, yet EMPOWERING. In this episode, I'm sharing a personal story about how I overcame people pleasing and learned how to be unapologetic in my life and my business, and how you can too.

Big thank you to our sponsors!

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On a cold November night in 2013, I boarded a plane at JFK airport by myself to go to London. I decided to take a solo trip to get inspired, and meet with the only 2 readers I knew I had there. I was in heavy fantasy mode, dreaming about what it would be like to quit my job at MTV and do what I love - and also bring my brand to the U.K. In this episode I share that story and also talk about the importance of patience and the magic of believing in something when nobody else can see it but you.

This episode is also brought to you in part by Sheila Smires of The Productive Blogger. Starting a blog can be overwhelming. The Productive Blogger offers a variety of coaching services to help you grow your brand and monetize your blog. Learn more about her new program + take advantage of her special early bird offer just for our listeners at www.TheProductiveBlogger.com/slay

If you're an entrepreneur or aspiring one, I'm dropping tons of tips for you on how to get smarter about your online marketing, social media strategy, and why public speaking is not as scary as we make it out to be.

Big thank you to our sponsors!

This episode is brought to you in part by American Hero Clothing. Run by an active duty army veteran and mother of 5, American Hero creates FULLY customizable clothing to represent your business and ROCK your brand. Check them out at ShopAmericanHero.com

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I'm answering all your burning questions once again! We're talking about how to handle rejection, tips for resetting and recharging, why you must be your own permission slip, how to start when you have a million ideas, where I shop (this is a popular question believe it or not!) + style tips and so much more. I love you guys!

HUGE thank you to our sponsors!

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It's time for another Ask me Anything! Your questions, answered. We're covering everything from how to know what your life's purpose is (do we even have just one?), how to confidently ask for money in your business (b*tch better have my money!), to dealing with a boyfriend or spouse who just isn't keeping up with your ambition, to knowing whether or not you may be OD'ing on self-help (yes, it's totally possible!)

HUGE thank you to this episode's sponsor, Life + Business Coach Desiree W! If you're a side-hustler, don't miss out on Dez's brand new 4-month mastermind. She's offering our listeners only 40% off on the program. Sign up and get the details and discount here: www.desireew.com/slay

A quick personal story about learning to let go and step out of my comfort zone. Have you attached yourself to control for too long? This episode will inspire you to shed those layers and give yourself the space to bloom. Because we all know that nothing fabulous happens inside of a comfort zone.

Check out STRIPPED, my book of poetry and inspired writings for the evolving woman on Amazon.

A few months ago, my publisher reached out to me to let me know that they wanted ME on the cover of my new book (insert freak out moment here!) I had a TON of emotions flowing through me when I got the news – I was super flattered, nervous, excited, anxious - you name it. I happily agreed, but kind of put it out of my head until a few days ago when my editor emailed me to say they had scheduled the shoot – and it was happening in less than 2 weeks!

For anyone listening who has ever had a big event – whether it was your wedding, your own book cover, your brand photo shoot, a big presentation – ANYTHING like that – you know the feeling of paranoia that sweeps over you when you’re just a few days away from that big day.

I felt those nervous feelings creeping in when I learned about the shoot, but this time, I was able to stop myself in my tracks and flip that anxiety into peacefulness by RECLAIMING my POWER. Rather than stressing out, I decided to get into action and start doing confidence-building activities that would make me feel good. And I want to share the EXACT steps I took with you guys so that you can use them as inspiration if you find yourself in a similar situation where your insecurity takes over.

This episode’s power mantra:

Confidence is available to me at all times.

Thank you to our sponsor, American Hero Clothing!

Run by an active duty army veteran and mother of 5, American Hero creates FULLY customizable clothing to represent your business and ROCK your brand. Check them out at ShopAmericanHero.com

I used to haaaate working out, and I found that any time I tried eating healthier it felt like a chore. But a few years ago, everything changed for me. I've been able to reprogram my mind and not only get motivated and excited to live a healthier lifestyle, but know exactly how to get back on the wagon when I fall off (because we all fall off). If you're looking for tips on getting and staying inspired to exercise and treat your body well, then this episode is for you. We'll explore the mind/body connection and how powerful it is to recognize the other benefits of living better beyond weight loss or looking more toned. I know this chat will push you to start demanding more for yourself, and do it all from a place of love and self-compassion!

Thank you to our sponsor, Desiree Wiercyski!

Visit https://desireew.com/slay for an exclusive offer just for us! When you sign up for Dez's list, you'll get instant access to her custom quiz, What Kind of Boss Babe Are You?, plus a video training on 3 simple ways to manage your anxiety when you're crazy stressed, and a workbook called Essential Morning Plans for Anyone Who Hates Mornings.

How many times have you accepted a lower salary, taken less than you deserved, or been afraid to assert yourself to ask for what you want? Not after this episode, baby! I am going to show you how to start valuing yourself and get exactly what you want and need in your life and your career. This episode is packed with personal stories and actionable tips so you can start raising your standards, confidently ask for what you want, and begin honoring your desires.

10 THINGS WOMEN WHO VALUE THEMSELVES DO DIFFERENTLY:

1. They confidently ask for what they want
2. They listen to their gut + trust themselves
3. They don't seek the approval of others
4. They don't make decision in a low vibration
5. They don't do things out of desperation
6. They move forward even if nobody understands their vision
7. They do not make excuses for themselves or anyone else
8. They don't allow their past to define their future
9. They don't put their happiness in the hands of someone else
10. They don't determine their success based on external wins or accomplishments

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Has anyone ever told you to be more realistic? Well I've got news for you: reality is completely different for everyone. And nobody has the right to tell you what yours should look like! For years, people told me I was living in a dream world and guess what? I am! And it's fabulous. When I look around at my life, it looks totally different than most people's, but it's real for me. And your fantasy world can be real for you, too.

In this episode, I am giving you my personal step-by-step guide to dreaming BIG and embodying the woman you want to be.

This episode's POWER MANTRA:

"My thoughts create my reality. And my reality can be as fabulous as I choose."

Thank you to our sponsors!

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Have you ever had one of those days where you just feel awesome? Everything feels in flow, you feel clear, energized, ideas are flowing, you feel creative and just in the zone? That is what it means to be in a high vibe. It’s basically that feeling where you believe EVERYTHING is possible and nothing can get in your way. (I love those days!)

On the flip side, there’s that state of being in a LOW vibration. That’s where you feel stuck, frustrated, jealous, BROKE, drained. All those crappy feelings that NOBODY has time for.

If you’ve struggled with getting into that HIGH VIBE state, there are some ways you can shift your energy instantly so that you can feel fabulous and start attracting amazing things into your life and I'm sharing them all in this episode.

I'm also sharing a personal story about how I shifted my vibration before leaving my full-time job to pursue my dreams. Because I do not believe we can live our best lives while we're in a low vibration. All change starts with our ENERGY.

POWER QUOTES from this episode:

"You have every opportunity in every moment of every day to choose a high vibration."

"What we attract is a direct reflection of our energetic state."

This episode's MANTRA:

"My natural vibration is of joy, clarity, energy and love. I redirect any thoughts that do not serve my highest self."

THANK YOU to our sponsor!

Melissa Leger, coach, relationship expert + creator of Gumball Love

Get on Melissa’s VIP list at GumballLove.com to learn more about her work and sign up for her next Academy (the next and final one of the year begins next week, October 11th!) Melissa will teach you to transform your life and business by finally getting the courage to break up, get over your ex, and be happily single living your BEST life so you can ultimately attract the right guy and the right people.

Most of us learned from a young age to equate success with money and power. We hold high-powered CEOs, rich entrepreneurs and celebrities on pedestals, assuming that because they are “successful,” they have it all. We click through their Instagram feeds in awe, we binge-watch their reality television shows, and we spend our hard-earned money to see them speak and perform. But do we ever wonder if they are actually HAPPY?

I invite you to redefine success with me today. I invite you to acknowledge that SUCCESS IS A STATE OF MIND. Something we all have access to. Something we can choose to tap into. And in this episode, I'm showing you how.

Power quotes from this episode:

"When we operate from a place of power, we understand that if we believe we are successful, then we are."

"I invite you to acknowledge that success is a state of mind and it is something we all have access to."

Grab the Style Your Mind workbook here: www.styleyourmind.com

Have you ever found yourself clicking around on Instagram or Facebook innocently enough, looking for “inspiration” – only to find yourself feeling totally consumed by someone else's life or business? I know its happened to me, and its happened to pretty much EVERY single woman I know.

In this episode, I'm giving you actionable tips for how to get out of "compare and despair" mode, elevate your thinking, and stop thinking about what SHE'S got and start focusing on what YOU have.

Power quotes from this episode:

"One of the most common qualities of the evolved woman, as I love to call her, is that she does not allow feelings of comparison to swallow her whole."

"When you have mastered yourself, you naturally celebrate another woman: her beauty, her success, and her accomplishments."

"When you stand in your own power, competition dissolves."