Growing up, I always assumed if a woman was powerful, she was a bitch. I never understood that you could be assertive, yet kind. I never understood that you could be empowered, yet EMPOWERING. In this episode, I'm sharing a personal story about how I overcame people pleasing and learned how to be unapologetic in my life and my business, and how you can too.

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On a cold November night in 2013, I boarded a plane at JFK airport by myself to go to London. I decided to take a solo trip to get inspired, and meet with the only 2 readers I knew I had there. I was in heavy fantasy mode, dreaming about what it would be like to quit my job at MTV and do what I love - and also bring my brand to the U.K. In this episode I share that story and also talk about the importance of patience and the magic of believing in something when nobody else can see it but you.

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If you're an entrepreneur or aspiring one, I'm dropping tons of tips for you on how to get smarter about your online marketing, social media strategy, and why public speaking is not as scary as we make it out to be.

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I'm answering all your burning questions once again! We're talking about how to handle rejection, tips for resetting and recharging, why you must be your own permission slip, how to start when you have a million ideas, where I shop (this is a popular question believe it or not!) + style tips and so much more. I love you guys!

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It's time for another Ask me Anything! Your questions, answered. We're covering everything from how to know what your life's purpose is (do we even have just one?), how to confidently ask for money in your business (b*tch better have my money!), to dealing with a boyfriend or spouse who just isn't keeping up with your ambition, to knowing whether or not you may be OD'ing on self-help (yes, it's totally possible!)

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A quick personal story about learning to let go and step out of my comfort zone. Have you attached yourself to control for too long? This episode will inspire you to shed those layers and give yourself the space to bloom. Because we all know that nothing fabulous happens inside of a comfort zone.

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A few months ago, my publisher reached out to me to let me know that they wanted ME on the cover of my new book (insert freak out moment here!) I had a TON of emotions flowing through me when I got the news – I was super flattered, nervous, excited, anxious - you name it. I happily agreed, but kind of put it out of my head until a few days ago when my editor emailed me to say they had scheduled the shoot – and it was happening in less than 2 weeks!

For anyone listening who has ever had a big event – whether it was your wedding, your own book cover, your brand photo shoot, a big presentation – ANYTHING like that – you know the feeling of paranoia that sweeps over you when you’re just a few days away from that big day.

I felt those nervous feelings creeping in when I learned about the shoot, but this time, I was able to stop myself in my tracks and flip that anxiety into peacefulness by RECLAIMING my POWER. Rather than stressing out, I decided to get into action and start doing confidence-building activities that would make me feel good. And I want to share the EXACT steps I took with you guys so that you can use them as inspiration if you find yourself in a similar situation where your insecurity takes over.

This episode’s power mantra:

Confidence is available to me at all times.

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I used to haaaate working out, and I found that any time I tried eating healthier it felt like a chore. But a few years ago, everything changed for me. I've been able to reprogram my mind and not only get motivated and excited to live a healthier lifestyle, but know exactly how to get back on the wagon when I fall off (because we all fall off). If you're looking for tips on getting and staying inspired to exercise and treat your body well, then this episode is for you. We'll explore the mind/body connection and how powerful it is to recognize the other benefits of living better beyond weight loss or looking more toned. I know this chat will push you to start demanding more for yourself, and do it all from a place of love and self-compassion!

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Visit https://desireew.com/slay for an exclusive offer just for us! When you sign up for Dez's list, you'll get instant access to her custom quiz, What Kind of Boss Babe Are You?, plus a video training on 3 simple ways to manage your anxiety when you're crazy stressed, and a workbook called Essential Morning Plans for Anyone Who Hates Mornings.

How many times have you accepted a lower salary, taken less than you deserved, or been afraid to assert yourself to ask for what you want? Not after this episode, baby! I am going to show you how to start valuing yourself and get exactly what you want and need in your life and your career. This episode is packed with personal stories and actionable tips so you can start raising your standards, confidently ask for what you want, and begin honoring your desires.

10 THINGS WOMEN WHO VALUE THEMSELVES DO DIFFERENTLY:

1. They confidently ask for what they want
2. They listen to their gut + trust themselves
3. They don't seek the approval of others
4. They don't make decision in a low vibration
5. They don't do things out of desperation
6. They move forward even if nobody understands their vision
7. They do not make excuses for themselves or anyone else
8. They don't allow their past to define their future
9. They don't put their happiness in the hands of someone else
10. They don't determine their success based on external wins or accomplishments

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Has anyone ever told you to be more realistic? Well I've got news for you: reality is completely different for everyone. And nobody has the right to tell you what yours should look like! For years, people told me I was living in a dream world and guess what? I am! And it's fabulous. When I look around at my life, it looks totally different than most people's, but it's real for me. And your fantasy world can be real for you, too.

In this episode, I am giving you my personal step-by-step guide to dreaming BIG and embodying the woman you want to be.

This episode's POWER MANTRA:

"My thoughts create my reality. And my reality can be as fabulous as I choose."

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Have you ever had one of those days where you just feel awesome? Everything feels in flow, you feel clear, energized, ideas are flowing, you feel creative and just in the zone? That is what it means to be in a high vibe. It’s basically that feeling where you believe EVERYTHING is possible and nothing can get in your way. (I love those days!)

On the flip side, there’s that state of being in a LOW vibration. That’s where you feel stuck, frustrated, jealous, BROKE, drained. All those crappy feelings that NOBODY has time for.

If you’ve struggled with getting into that HIGH VIBE state, there are some ways you can shift your energy instantly so that you can feel fabulous and start attracting amazing things into your life and I'm sharing them all in this episode.

I'm also sharing a personal story about how I shifted my vibration before leaving my full-time job to pursue my dreams. Because I do not believe we can live our best lives while we're in a low vibration. All change starts with our ENERGY.

POWER QUOTES from this episode:

"You have every opportunity in every moment of every day to choose a high vibration."

"What we attract is a direct reflection of our energetic state."

This episode's MANTRA:

"My natural vibration is of joy, clarity, energy and love. I redirect any thoughts that do not serve my highest self."

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Melissa Leger, coach, relationship expert + creator of Gumball Love

Get on Melissa’s VIP list at GumballLove.com to learn more about her work and sign up for her next Academy (the next and final one of the year begins next week, October 11th!) Melissa will teach you to transform your life and business by finally getting the courage to break up, get over your ex, and be happily single living your BEST life so you can ultimately attract the right guy and the right people.

Most of us learned from a young age to equate success with money and power. We hold high-powered CEOs, rich entrepreneurs and celebrities on pedestals, assuming that because they are “successful,” they have it all. We click through their Instagram feeds in awe, we binge-watch their reality television shows, and we spend our hard-earned money to see them speak and perform. But do we ever wonder if they are actually HAPPY?

I invite you to redefine success with me today. I invite you to acknowledge that SUCCESS IS A STATE OF MIND. Something we all have access to. Something we can choose to tap into. And in this episode, I'm showing you how.

Power quotes from this episode:

"When we operate from a place of power, we understand that if we believe we are successful, then we are."

"I invite you to acknowledge that success is a state of mind and it is something we all have access to."

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Have you ever found yourself clicking around on Instagram or Facebook innocently enough, looking for “inspiration” – only to find yourself feeling totally consumed by someone else's life or business? I know its happened to me, and its happened to pretty much EVERY single woman I know.

In this episode, I'm giving you actionable tips for how to get out of "compare and despair" mode, elevate your thinking, and stop thinking about what SHE'S got and start focusing on what YOU have.

Power quotes from this episode:

"One of the most common qualities of the evolved woman, as I love to call her, is that she does not allow feelings of comparison to swallow her whole."

"When you have mastered yourself, you naturally celebrate another woman: her beauty, her success, and her accomplishments."

"When you stand in your own power, competition dissolves."

“We can’t become what we need to be by remaining who we are” - Oprah.

When we release something from our lives, we allow ourselves to detach from thoughts, feelings, people, and situations that are no longer meant to take up space. Whether it’s a relationship that has run its course, or a job that is no longer a fit for you, or a home you once lived in, we must let go of these things to invite the new. We must let go of the past in order to evolve. And as I always say, an evolving mind is a healthy mind. In this episode, I'm giving you actionable tools on how to let go and start enjoying the next phase of your life.

Are you goal-obsessed? Do you spend more time writing things down and planning things out rather than actually doing them? In this episode, I'm talking about why I feel the personal development world has it backwards. Get ready for a brand new take on an intuitive, blissful way to work and feel aligned with what means the most to you.

Women are twice as likely to suffer from anxiety than men. If you've been there, you're not alone sister. I struggled with anxiety for years, and in this episode I dive into my personal journey and how I used (and STILL use) behavioral therapy to manage it. If you've ever experienced an anxiety attack or overwhelming feelings of stress or panic, this episode will provide some tips and advice on how to work through them. And remember, there is no shame in seeking professional help for your mental health and wellness. If you need help, please get it.

We've all been there...waking up with a hangover and feeling totally unmotivated and guilty. Here's how to cure it. Plus, advice on how to create your own "lightning bolt moment" and get out of any kind of funk you may find yourself in.

Ya gotta have friends! But who are you spending most of your time with? And are these people energizing you, or draining you? In this episode, I dig into friendships, how they evolve, when to let them go, and how to make brand new friends as an adult. If you're looking for a positive community of supportive women, join my private group, the Slay Baby Collective here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/slaybabycollective/

Ever wonder what it's like to pick out outfits for rock stars? We're continuing with Women Who Rock week with celebrity stylist and author of "Hang Up Your Hang Ups" Payton Dale. We talked about fashion and music, and SO much more including body image, saying yes to everything (and figuring it out afterwards), the importance of a girl gang, and why its so rewarding to be a rebel in your industry.

Connect with Payton: @ThePaytonProject

Check out her book, "Hang Up Your Hang Ups" on Amazon

Ever meet those girls who just GET IT? That's JoJamie Hahr. She is the Vice President of Marketing at BBR Music Group based in Nashville, TN. We chatted about the importance of relentlessly working toward your dreams, why taking a risk always pays off, and why women should be able to be, look, do, and SAY whatever they want in business. Ever feel like you need to shrink yourself as you get older? Not after this conversation. Buckle up babes, this is a GOOD one!

Connect with JoJamie:
Instagram: @JoJamie + @JoJamieInstaFashionGram
BBR Music Group: www.BBRMusicGroup.com

In this episode, I sat down with Lindsay Ell to talk about her 8 year journey into the music industry, what it was like to move from Canada to Nashville, why "impossible" is not a word in her vocabulary, why she believes being vulnerable is the secret to success and SO MUCH MORE. We're bringing serious advice and girl power in this babe chat. Enjoy!

Connect with Lindsay on Instagram and Twitter @LindsayEll
Check out her new album #TheProject out now!